Boundaries has been a topic that has come up for me A LOT in the last few years. With horses, with people, in books, classes, conversations etc
And I’m not going to lie … I struggled
I never had anyone show me how to have healthy boundaries as a child – and even some of the teachers why were teaching about it couldn’t explain it, or even demonstrate it in an effective way.
Here’s how/why I struggled.
The teaching was- if something feels off to you, just set a boundary.
But I always felt – if something felt off to me THATS WHEN I DO MY INNER WORK… and then the boundary sets itself … energetically.
You have to do the work.
If you are setting a boundary from a place of fear, or anger or shame or guilt or grief or…. (Insert emotion here) then you are just putting up walls to protect your ego.
It’s time to get fucking honest with yourself.
Do the work. WHAT DO I FEEL? What’s going on? What’s coming up?
Heal. Don’t project. Don’t bypass n run away.
Sit with it. Be with it. Clear it out. Remove the fear. Remove the guilt. Remove the shame.
And THEN the truth of who you are and what you honestly need to thrive will show up naturally.
That’s where boundaries come in.
Setting up time and space for yourself – nothing to do with others.
Just showing up honestly and unapologetically as yourself
AND allowing others to do the same.
If you find that place of being true to who you are, trusting yourself, respecting yourself, honouring yourself – the boundaries set themselves… honestly
Healthy boundaries can only come from a healthy place within you…
So do the work-let’s heal it together
