But let’s not forget to talk about healing those wounds you’d like to set the boundaries around.
Let’s start with the emotion of anger.
It’s one I’ve heard spoken about before… if you feel angry it’s because there’s a place you need to set a boundary.
However, I’d like to counter that with… IF YOU FEEL ANGRY, why? What’s going on inside? Where have you been wounded in the past? What have you experienced in a similar situation to bring up the emotion of anger in this situation?
Find it. THEN HEAL IT.
Find forgiveness for yourself and the others from the initial situation, from the first experience you had that hurt you. Let go of the wounding. Let go of the resentment. Let go of the pain.
And then you know what happens? That situation will no longer make you angry… AND THE BOUNDARIES will set themselves.
I promise.
I’ve done this a thousand times over.
Anger is only one emotion, you can do this with any emotion you have.
Instead of saying “this is what I need to not get upset”… let’s go inside and figure out why we are getting upset at all. What’s coming up for us? What’s going on?
You can do this with fear
Or jealousy
Or resentment
Or shame
Or guilt
Or grief
Or … any experience that is coming up for you.
Once we get our emotions to a healthy place, we automatically set boundaries and show up in a way that’s supportive to ourselves and others.
SO. If you feel the need to “set some boundaries” these days.
I challenge you to go within first. Where are your wounds coming up? Where are you not showing up first for yourself in a healthy way? Where do you still need to forgive and let go?
And I promise, the boundaries will be there. So authentically and magically and better than you ever could have asked for.
They have to be. Because if you are showing up for yourself in an emotionally healthy way so will others.
It’s the universal law
